How to deal and what to do with an unsatisfying job or career
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Hi! So today, I'm going to talk a little about careers and people who hate their jobs and their professional lives. I see this (inaudible) everyday in my practice and people come to talk to me about their careers and their jobs. And for me, what I would say is, if you're in a career or job that you hate, it is never never too late to do something about it. It took me until my late 30s until I was almost enough with myself to admit that what I was doing wasn't really what I really wanted to do and until really finally follow my bliss just as Joseph Campbell calls it. But you spend an awful lot of your life at work than on your personal life and I think if it something that is draining you, that you're miserable in, you are eventually that's gonna just take its toll on your health. And you see how many people get sick whenever they are not happy in their jobs or they're pushing themselves too hard or they're dissatisfied in their professional lives because all of your thoughts, all of your actions, all of your beliefs have an effect on your physical body. So if you are on a job that you hate it's taking its toll on you every single day. Now, a lot of people stay in their jobs or their careers out of fear. "There's nothing else I'm qualified at", "I couldn't do nothing else", "what else would I do?". That is just an excuse, okay? There are a multitude of different things that you could be doing but I would say the most important thing to do is to find out what you really want to do. What really really makes your heart sing? What fills you with passion? I believe that every single person working in a job or career should be passionate about what they do. And if they're not, then it's time to start thinking outside of the box. Now, some people have a job and they get their passion outside of their work. I'm not (inaudible) if they're happy enough to carry on their job but if you're really miserable on your job, what I would say is the first step - it's to sit down and just do some brainstorming. So, think about what you might like to do, okay? If it seems like something is too unrealistic like you're 60-years of age and you want to be a pop star, okay, so maybe that's not gonna work for you but what you might be able to do is where could I start doing some singing, okay? Could I help out on a school with music? Do I have any skills in music? Where can I get involved in music? There's always questions that you can ask yourself, draw yourself more towards what you want to be doing. If you're on a good job and you're earning good money and you're afraid about the loss of security, you don't have to quit your job and be poor or broke or not have an income. You can do what's called a transition period where we start exploring what you really like to be doing while you're still in your job. You don't have to jump how everybody thinks if I leave my job, no! So, what I would say is find your bliss, follow your bliss, find your passion and that takes a lot self-exploration there and a number psychometric tests that you could do to find out what your personality type is. You can do test on your emotional intelligence - isn't always necessary sometimes just sitting down and asking yourself some questions about where you need to go, what you need to do to get to where you need to go and by the way it's never too late for education. You can go back to college at any age and you can retrain at something. So, I would say do it. Just life is far too short to not be happy in what you do and to take a lot of looking at it. And again, a career coach is very useful, personal help if you look at that, because they can give you tips that can help you to go through the journey and just be there when you go through them, make sure that you're covering all the angles. It's nice to do that journey with somebody because you can let go some of your anxieties and fears about it. So, I hope that that has been helpful.