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Be who you truly are


The advice I would give to somebody who hates their job or their professional life is the advice that we use to everybody, that would ask, you would ask this question and that is to stop doing it and do something you love to do. But I know, thats easier said than done because I attempted to do that in 2000 and I was {inaudible} because I was told and I said wanted to do something different. I wasnt happy with what I was doing. I said, Id like to do something different and I dont know what that is but Im going to go and find out this and hold on a minute, stop here for a second. If you think its difficult doing what your quota and what youre able to do easily, how difficult its going to be for you to do something that you know nothing about? And I said, thats perfect logic. Not made sense to me so I kept on doing what I was doing. Big mistake. It took me longer and a lot more things happened for me to realize that I needed to know what I wanted to do in the first place and the first thing I needed to do was answer the three big questions. And the first question is, who are you? The second question is, where do you come from? And the Third question is, what do you want? Now, to know who you are, you need to know where you come from because where you come from is who you are. In your life, youve been conditioned. We all have been conditioned. I am not saying thats a bad thing. I am not saying thats a good thing. I am not saying {inaudible} say its a fact. We had been conditioned to be who we are by our parents, our peers, our teachers, our community, our society and our country have conditioned us to be who we are in the way we are. And the proof of that is that if you take a six month old baby ,say from the U.S. and you send that baby to China, by the time its 5 years old, itll be speaking Chinese and will be living in the same way as Chinese children live following Chinese customs and Chinese ways and their exact communities ways. Now, if you take a Chinese baby, 6 months old and bring that baby to the U.S., within 5 years when that child is 5 years old, that will be living by American customs, American ways and will be speaking English. The child will be living as the community that lives in America. Thats how the child will live and act then react and how its been trained by its guardians and its society and its teachers and its peers. So, thats the proof that we are conditioned and it doesnt matter, maybe good, maybe bad, not the one disclosing that here. So, the fact is, you can then know who you are by your conditioning and you can decide if that is really you and you can check your values, your beliefs, your needs and wants and work them out to find out who you really are and what you really want. And when you become self-aware, you are able to find out what you want in your life, who you are and what you want to become and you do things on your basis. You have taken control of your own life. You are no longer operating from a conditioned state. You are operating from a state of choice. You make your own choices and your own decisions in your own life and you can decide what you want to do for yourself. Now, if you comeback to the job to be slightly different and the other people is, you dont leave your job. You treat your job as if you are going to college. Its just the means to pay your bills, to make things {inaudible} and you wont hate it anymore because you know its a good thing. Its actually doing something good for you because its sustaining you where you go and train and to do and be who you really want to be and do the work you love and eventually in time, you will get to that place and you will be in a position to do the thing you want to do and then you can say, Thank you! And have gratitude for that job rather than hating it and then you can move on to do the things you want to do and the things that make you happy in your life. So, become self-aware. Be who you truly are.

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